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Mental Illness is not contagious

Don’t be scared about being around someone who has a mental illness – it’s not contagious!

You can’t catch it by being kind to them.

You can’t catch it by spending time with them.

You can’t catch it by asking them what you can do to help.

You can’t catch it by talking to them.

In actual fact you can’t catch it at all.

That’s not to say that it is always easy living with someone who has a mental illness. It can be hard, confusing, scary and frustrating because you want them to be well and struggle to understand how you can help and support them.

Help is out there.

Help is there for people struggling with mental illness and help is also there for people trying to support someone who is suffering.

Getting help doesn’t mean that you’re weak or that you can’t cope – it just means that it’s OK to make it easier on yourself.

If you had to move a piano down a flight of steps would you try and do it on your own? Maybe you could, but wouldn’t it be easier with some friends to help – or even better some people who’s job it was to move pianos. Those people have the tools, skills and experience to do it in the easiest way.

So if you know someone who is suffering – either personally or because they are trying to support someone who is – be a friend. Lend a hand, or an ear, or even a shoulder to cry on. I know it can be difficult to know what to say or do, but just ask them if they’re ok and let them know that you’re there if they need to talk. You might be the only one who does and it can make a world of difference.

Did you know that statistically the biggest killer of men under 50 in the western world is suicide. Notice that I said men not people.

That’s because men are much more likely to commit suicide than women.

Do you know why? Because women talk more.

If you walk into work and see a woman colleague in tears, it’s pretty likely that at least one other woman will gather her up, take her off to the toilets and talk to her.

Now imagine it was a male colleague – what would happen then?

It should be the same, but it’s not.

Talking doesn’t make the problem go away, but somehow it makes it easier to deal with. You get support, caring, understanding and find a way through. When you try and do it all alone, you find that you can get into very destructive negative thinking patterns and have no one there to offer a different perspective. The downward spiral can be fast and horrific but it can be stopped – just by talking.

If people can’t talk to friends or family encourage them to talk to someone else. Maybe it’s a doctor or therapist, maybe it’s someone on a help line – hell, maybe it’s a bartender, but talking is always good.

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What do you want most in the whole world – and what are you doing about it?

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What do you want most in the whole world?

To be fit?

To be healthier?

To lose weight?

To start your own business?

To become a writer?

To be a parent?

The list could be endless – we all have our own goals and our own dreams. What ever your dream is, you should be going for it. Dreams don’t work unless you do.

The problem is that most of us don’t want to do all the work that will get us there.

Want to be fit but don’t like working out?

Want to be healthier but don’t like watching what you eat?

Want to lose weight but don’t want to cut down the calories?

Want to start your own business but don’t want to leave the comfort of your job?

Want to be a writer, but don’t want to go through the hassle of finding an agent?

Want to be a parent but don’t want tot commit to a change of lifestyle?

If you have a goal, a dream, a burning desire to change your life you need to focus on the long term result, not how you feel in the short term. That can be difficult as it’s hard to see the end result when it months or maybe even years away, but what you want now will give you a quick (and short term) reward.

So how do you focus on the long term stuff?

One way is through hypnosis. Under hypnosis you can see and experience what it will be like when you have finally achieved your goal. You get to experience the long term win in the short term. Then, still in hypnosis, you can follow your time line back to where you are today and see all the changes that you make between now and then in order to achieve your goal. By seeing the changes that you make and realising how they all add up to get you to where you want to be it can make it much easier to get the things that you need to do done.

So, don’t give up what you want most, for what you want now.

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When it’s best to NOT be yourself.

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Are you better at giving advice than working out how to deal with your own problems?

If so, you are not alone.

Most people are much better at working out a logical course of action for other people, than they are for themselves. When we start to look at our own problems we have all sorts of biases that kick in which move us towards less rational decision making.

So what to do about it?

Well the simple answer is – don’t be yourself!

If you are faced with a problem the best way to think of a solution is to pretend that you are someone else – a friend or relative who is giving advice on the issue. Either that, or pretend it’s your friend or relative that has the problem and that you are giving advice to them. This simple step of moving yourself away from being directly involved is enough to overcome a lot of the initial bias that would have led to irrational thought processes and decision making.

If your problem involves a conversation that you are going to have, it can be useful to set up some chairs and imagine that the conversation is happening in front of you. See the conversation happening as an outside observer. This can help you to see both sides more easily and make you less likely to become entrenched in your view. It is also helpful to imagine what body language and words are used and what effect they would have. By ‘seeing’ this ahead of time you can make clearer decisions about how you want to come across and how best to achieve the outcome or resolution that you are looking for.

so, next time your faced with a decision – why not give it a try?

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