Belief is a powerful thing.
We all believe in things.
Some people believe in God who has a hand in their life.
Some people believe that they are lucky.
Some people believe that everything happens for a reason.
Some people believe in fairies.
Some people believe that the sun will come up tomorrow.
Some people believe in themselves.
Sometimes the things we don’t believe in are just as powerful.
What if you don’t believe in yourself?
Do you try anyway?
What if you don’t think you can do it?
Do you give up at the first hurdle because it just proved to you that it was impossible?
What if you don’t believe you’re lucky?
Does every bad thing that happens confirm that you were right?
We all have something called confirmation bias.
That means that we give extra attention and credit to things that confirm what we already think.
For example have you ever noticed that if you don’t like someone, almost everything you do annoys you. yet if a person you really liked did exactly the same thing it probably wouldn’t bother you (well, not as much anyway).
So when we don’t believe in ourselves our confirmation bias just makes it even harder to believe.
As a hypnotherapist, I often work with people who don’t believe that they can do the things they want. Maybe it’s lose weight, maybe give up smoking, maybe be confident in public, maybe its to be unafraid around spiders. Whatever it is, the more they believe that they cannot do it, the more likely it is that they won’t.
Luckily I have a few tricks up my sleeve.
The first thing I have to do is to change their belief set.
Today I was working with a lovely lady who wants to lose weight. She said that she had been overweight since she was a small child. When we first started the session I asked her if she believed she could lose weight and she said ‘no’. When I asked her why she said that, she had never been a healthy weight, so didn’t see how she could be in the future. So, after finding out about her eating habits, how she felt about food and eating, going through her routines and requirements we started with the hypnosis. The first twenty minutes were all about changing her belief patterns – nothing whatsoever about eating, appetite or food. After we had worked on this I asked where she was now – how much did she believe that she could lose weight? She replied ‘90% sure’
So we went from 0 to 90% in 20 minutes.
We then went on to work on changing eating habits and food types and put in place all the things she needed in order to be able to lose weight easily.
The real work was done in the first 20 minutes. She now believes that she CAN lose weight. Her confirmation bias will prove to her every day that it’s possible and if she wants it, she WILL be able to do it. The other stuff was just making it easier for her.
Think about what you believe in and maybe more importantly, what you don’t.
It could change your life!