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Housewarming

I’ve been invited to a friends housewarming today.

This isn’t their first home, but it is their first home with their new partner.

Because both of them have had their own places before they don’t really need stuff for their house – in fact they’ve probably got two of most things!

So – what to get them?

I did some research on traditional house warming presents and saw that there is a centuries old traditions for giving salt (for flavour) honey (for sweetness) bread (for sustenance) a candle (for light) a broom (for a clean start) and wine (for prosperity).

So I decided to make them up a little gift basket, but mixed it up a little. I put most of the stuff mentioned in (salt,honey,candle and wine) but I swapped pasta for bread (‘cos it lasts longer) and a duster for the broom (‘cos it didn’t fit in my basket) and then threw in a few more bits that represented other things I wished for them. I also put in some chilli sauce, some headache pills.

Here’s the little poem I wrote to go with it and explain it all

Here’s a candle for wishes of light

A duster to clean and keep things bright

A meal so you’ll always have something to eat

Honey to make sure life’s always sweet

There’s salt for flavour and wine for treats

Spice for adventure and plenty of heat

Last but not least are some headache pills,

to soothe your aches and cure your ills.

Have adventures,explore and roam,

but always come back to a happy home.

What would you put in the basket?

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Do you bully yourself?

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When you speak to yourself, are you a bully or a friend?

Most people don’t like to think of themselves as a bully, but when they start listening to their inner voice, they can begin to notice how mean they are to themselves.

Most of the damage to our self-esteem is self-inflicted.

Unfortunately, we often respond to rejections and failures by becoming self-critical, listing all our faults and short-comings, calling ourselves names, and basically kicking ourselves when we’re already down. We also tell ourselves that we’re ‘not good enough’, that we ‘always mess things up’ or that we are ‘just too lazy and have no self control’. If we had somebody in our lives who spoke to us like that we would hate them and wonder why they kept picking on us. We then use ridiculous justifications to justify the way we speak to ourselves, the way we damage our self-esteem when it is already hurting—“I deserve it,” “It will keep me humble,” “It’s a way to keep my expectations low, or “It’s true; I hate myself!”

If there’s one “program” we could all start that would do wonders for our self-esteem, it’s abolishing needless self-criticism and punitive self-talk – it’s one of the most effective forms of self hypnosis and it’s free!

Try it today – If you hear your inner bully rearing it’s ugly head, see it for what it is, tell it to be nice and get your inner cheer leader out to give you a boost instead.

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