Sometimes making changes in our life can feel overwhelming – it’s just too much. Too hard to make permanent changes, even if we know that changing will make us happier, healthier and feel better. So why not try it just for a day?
It’s a technique that people who are in recovery from an addiction know pretty well – one day at a time. It might seem incomprehensible to an alcoholic that they will never drink again. An idea of a lifetime of sobriety is just too overwhelming to consider,but a day, or an hour or even a minute may be doable. After one minute, maybe I could do one more. After one hour, the next may seem more possible. After a day, I can try another day. Success can often lead to more success, so sometimes it’s better to make small goals.
It’s a great strategy for an addict.
So ask yourself what you are addicted to. Are you hooked on self defeating attitudes? Can you go through a day without beating yourself up about something?
Not all of the suggestions below will apply to you – maybe none of them will, but maybe, just maybe you’ll find something below that you could try – Just for today.
Just for today do something you want to do, but normally don’t let yourself.
Eat the forbidden food, watch the trashy TV, say the thing you’ve been wanting to say.
Just for today do something that you know you should do, but can never get started with.
Go for a run, clean out your wardrobe, sort through your photo’s
Just for today give yourself permission to feel how you don’t normally feel.
Have a day where you stop worrying, decide that you like how you look or stop putting others first.
Just for today allow yourself to be totally in the moment.
Turn everything off. Sit quietly and notice your thoughts.
Just for today drink nothing but water.
No caffeine, no sugar, no additives, no alcohol.
Just for today be honest with yourself.
Stop making excuses, stop lying to yourself, ask yourself the difficult question.
Just for today forgive yourself.
It’s OK not to be OK. You’re human, not perfect.
Just for today don’t complain.
Think about what you’re grateful for, think about those worse off than you, think about how lucky you are.
Just for today, help.
Help your family, help your friends, help a stranger.
Just for today be kind.
Be kind to yourself, be kind to those you like, be kind to those you don’t like.
Just for today, forgive.
Let go of the anger, let go of the hate, let go of the pain.
Just for today I’ll try something new
New tastes, new activities, new strategies.
There are many things that we could all change in our lives. Sometimes they are easy, sometimes they are hard. Why not try them on for a day – you never know, you might like it. If you do, maybe try it for another day,and another, until it’s just what you do now.
If you find it hard to change things in your life, there are ways that you can make it easier. My favourite is hypnotherapy, but others are available. Try change on your own, but if at first you don’t succeed, don’t give up, get some help.