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It’s all about balance

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Christmas is not known as a season of balance. It tends to be about excess, decadence and over indulgence.

Personally I think that’s OK.

Being balanced all the time can get a bit bland – and maybe a bit of unbalance is sometimes required in a balanced life in order to balance things even more….

But here’s the thing about excess – you have to stop it before it starts to become normal.

I hope you’ve eaten, drunk and been Merry, but it’s time to thinks about redressing the balance.

I have a few friends who are going to be dryathletes in January – They’ve taken the pledge to steer clear of alcohol for a month. This is a great way of supporting your body and mind returning to a more healthy routine. Whether you have a problem with it or not, alcohol is a poison. You really do yourself a favour by keeping clear of it.

I don’t drink much as it is so going dry for January is fairly non eventful for me. I’m going to try to redress the balance of eating too much meat and sugar over Christmas. January is going to be about fruits and vegetables. Soups, stews and salads for me! I have to say I’m rather looking forward to it.

Have a think about what you may have been overindulging in and what you can do in January to help find your balance.

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It’ll be OK – I promise

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Show ’em you love ’em

If there is someone you love, tell them.

If there is someone you miss, call them.

If there is something you want to do, do it.

If there is something you need, go and get it.

If there is something you want people to understand, explain it.

If there is someone you want to meet up with, invite them.

If there is something you don’t get, ask.

No drama, no fuss.

K.I.S.S.

(Keep It Simple Stupid)

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New Years resolutions – start now!

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How have you done on your New years resolutions for 2014?

Are you making any for 2015?

Why wait for January?

We are entering into an unusual time of the year. December and everything associated with Christmas is a time that is a little outside the normal way of things. There are more parties, more food and drink, more time with families, more opportunities to have time away from work. All of these things can either help, or get in the way of, all of the resolutions detailed above.

The choice is yours.

The thing to remember is that when you made this resolution, or when you have been thinking about starting it in January, you have made the decision that this is something you want to achieve – something you want in your life.

Why wait?

If you’re thinking about the idea that December is your last blow out before you start your change, I would question your commitment to changing.

If you really want to lose weight, why spend December putting on more weight to lose in January?

If you really want to give up smoking why spend December risking your health for another month?

If you really want to quit drinking, why spend December with a hangover and an abused liver?

If you really want to get out of debt why spend December getting yourself into a worse position?

If you really want to get fit. why spend December sitting on the sofa eating mince pies and making it harder to start in January?

January is a bit depressing. All the parties are over, all the presents are unwrapped, the weather is rubbish and there’s nothing to look forward to for ages….so why would you want to make a change in your life at a time when you are already struggling? Do it at a good time – like NOW!

There is also the pressure of everyone starting their new years resolutions in January. How great would you feel when people are going on about how much weight they have to lose, and how much they put on over Christmas, if you could say that you had already lost half a stone and were feeling amazing?

If you have struggled to make the changes you wanted to this year, maybe it’s time to think about getting professional help. It’s OK to want a helping hand to make a change in your life. The important thing is that you make the changes you want to so that you can be as happy and fulfilled as possible. I think Hypnosis is a great way of getting that support, but there are lots of people ready and waiting to help you – slimming groups, personal trainers, volunteer groups, debt counsellors, life coaches etc etc, so don’t think you have to do it all on your own.

What ever you want to achieve to make your life better, think about what’s stopping you.

Remember

Don’t give up what you really want for something you just want now.

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Confused? You will be!

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Have you ever been frustrated and unhappy because you were confused?

It can be really difficult when you don’t understand something, whether it’s Maths homework, someone’s behaviours, why your computer isn’t working or something completely different.

If you give up at this point, then all you have is your confusion.

The way to work through this is to learn. Learn about whatever it is that’s confusing you. Sometimes this will take time and thought to achieve, sometimes it will take lessons, sometimes it may just take a good nights rest – it’s amazing how often sleeping on a subject brings clarity.

Your subconscious can do a lot of processing for you whilst you sleep. Dreams are your brains way of ordering and reordering information, tidying the filing cabinet that’s in your head. If you are confused about something or someone, try not to make any decisions until you have had time to work through it a little. It can be impossible to take some things back, so make sure you give it time before you react.

Lastly it’s worth mentioning that it’s OK to be confused. My Hypnosis teacher once told me that from the greatest confusion comes the greatest understanding. I think he was right about that. If you think you understand something straight away then you tend not to examine it and  look at it in different ways. When you are confused by something you tend to analyse it and look at it from lots of different angles before you make sense of it.

That’s how you truly understand.

Embrace the confusion, learn and enjoy the understanding.

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A bit of DIY

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We’re having some friends over for dinner in a week and a half and it motivates me to to all of those little jobs that otherwise may get left – touching up the paintwork, changing the pictures, sticking down a loose carpet edge.

I want to present my home at it’s best.

I’ll be doing a bit of personal DIY as well, touching up the roots, doing the nails, putting on some fake tan.

I want to present me at my best too.

This got me to thinking – when do we do a bit of mental DIY? What are the triggers that make us work on out inner selves.

Normally it’s times of crisis, when things are difficult to deal with, but why wait that long?

If you work on little things every week you find that you are so much more ready to face problems or issues if and when they arise.

So, this week, check the corners for cobwebs, see if things could do with a little maintenance and get to work.

As with all projects, some are too big to be tackled yourself, or maybe you just don’t have the skills or knowledge to handle them. If this is the case there are always people out there who make it their job to help and support you. It’s no less sensible to call in a professional like a hypnotherapist if you need emotional support or help to change than it is to call in a builder if you need to do major work on your house.

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Can you see what you think?

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Do you see pictures in your mind?

As a hypnotist, I often ask people to visualise things in their minds eye, but some people have real problems doing this.

Part of this comes down to how we perceive the world.

There are 3 basic categories

Visual – People who connect with the world via images

Audio – People who connect with the world via sound

Kinaesthetic – People who connect with the world via feelings

Understandably, visual types are often the best at ‘seeing’ things in their mind, but anyone can do it.

The trick is to start small.

If you can describe your front door, then the image is in there somewhere.

What colour is your door? Where is the handle and what is it made of? Is there a letter box? Where is it placed? Which way does it open? What do you see when you open your door?

Another thing you might want to ‘see’ is your morning routine – what do you do? What do you see as you do it? What does your bathroom look like?

If you can answer these questions the images are there – you just need to relax and let yourself access them.

When you have a few minutes to relax, just close your eyes and let an image or a colour appear – you can try to manipulate it or you can just let the images flow and see where they take you. The better you get at this, the more you can notice the random images and see what they tell you about what you are thinking.

It’s a bit like dream interpretation – the meanings can be a bit obscure, but they are there.

Which reminds me – if you dream, (which you do, even if you can’t remember them) then you can create images – because that’s how you dream. You see pictures almost as though you are in your own personal movie.

Have fun exploring your subconscious.

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How to Say Sorry

im-sorryAs Elton John once sang – sorry seems to be the hardest word.

But it shouldn’t be.

If you’ve done something wrong or have just upset someone – say sorry – it’s often the quickest and easiest way to get past it.

So, bite the bullet, look the person in the eye and say I’m sorry.

Just that – I’m Sorry.

Not I’m sorry that I’m not perfect (that’s passive aggressive and puts the blame on the other person for expecting too much from you)

Not I’m sorry, but ……(that basically means you’re not sorry)

Not I’m sorry that you got upset by what I said (that means you’re sorry for them getting upset where as you should be sorry for what you said)

Not I’m sorry that you found out… (that means you’re not sorry you did it, only that you got caught)

Not I’m sorry, why do you have to keep going on about it (that implies you should be let off just because you have said that you’re sorry)

Not I’m sorry but you were to blame too (blame is not part of an apology – be sorry for your part in it)

Not I’m sorry to have to tell you,,,,,(because it’s just the telling part you’re sorry about)

Say you’re sorry. Say you won’t do it again. Say you’ll try to make it up to them.

Lastly accept when sorry isn’t enough.

Sometimes people just can’t forgive you for whatever it is that you’ve done. When this happens we can feel terrible and the guilt can be devastating. Apologies, when accepted, can make us feel better about ourselves. When they are not accepted you need to find a different way of moving on and letting that feeling go. Self Hypnosis techniques can be really useful with these feelings. If you have feelings you would like to let go of, try one on the self hypnosis techniques I’ve blogged about  (Eye FixationThe Betty Erickson technique, the switch, magnetic palms) and visualise putting something that represents your unwanted feeling in a bubble. When you can see it clearly in the bubble, gently push it away with your mind. Follow it in your minds eye until it disappears from view. You may have to do this several times before you start to feel better, but it’s worth being persistent with.

Hope I haven’t gone on to long…If I did – I’m Sorry

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Self Hypnosis – The Switch

Self Hypnosis Technique

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The Switch is one of my favourite Self Hypnosis techniques, but if you are just beginning to use self hypnosis you may want to try something else to begin with, like the Betty Erickson Technique or a progressive relaxation.


To begin with, decide what you want to achieve with this session – summarise your goal into one simple line e.g. I want to be more confident or I want to feel more relaxed. Try to avoid using dead men’s goals.

Now, make yourself nice and comfortable. I usually find that it is best to be sat in a comfy chair with my feet resting flat on the ground, but you can choose whatever feels right for you. Just make sure you are in a safe place and that you have enough time to complete the exercise.

Start by imagining that you have two kinds of wires that go into every nerve and fibre of your body.

One kind controls all of the automatic functions of your body, like your blood pressure & heart rate. Decide what colour this is.

The other connects to every single voluntary part of your body that you can control e.g. breathing, limbs, muscles and your speed of thought.  So, if you were to reduce power in that second bundle, your limbs, breathing and mind would instantly relax. Decide what colour this one is.

Now lift up the index finger of your left hand, and imagine under that index finger is a switch that will turn on or off that entire bundle of voluntary muscles and mental speed.  Right now that light switch is in the ON position.

Close your eyes & take a very deep breath and hold your breath for approx. 5 seconds.  To relax into self-hypnosis, simply imagine the coloured wires of your voluntary system going to that switch and when you breath out turn off that light switch by slowly dropping your finger.

As you do, slow your breathing, relax all your muscles and limbs and allow yourself to relax completely, as if all of the power had simply been turned down.

With the power down, focus on your goal. See yourself successfully doing your new goal. Hear all the sounds that are important to you and really feel what it will feel like. Multiply the positive feelings you will have of you achieving you goal / new habit – make them bigger, brighter and stronger until you feel absolutely brilliant.

To get maximum effect, repeat the above in different scenarios & situations and notice how you are different in the future to how you are now.

You might also notice all the little, achievable things that change to get you to your goal. See how easy they were to do and how amazing you feel when they are done.

When you’re ready to be your usual self, simply tell yourself that’s what you’re going to do. Take a deep breath in and as you do, lift your finger back up. Don’t be surprised if you feel the energy flooding back into your body when you flick the switch back to ON. By the time you breathe out, notice how you feel completely back to normal and positive, but bring with you the sense of achieving your goal and the knowledge of how to do this in the right way for you.


I hope you give this one a try. It can help you to do amazing things!

Let me know how you get on

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Hangover Help

Did we have a good night last night?

Alcohol is often part of a big night out or a celebration, but it can leave us feeling a little less than sparkly the next day.

Some people will tell you that it’s self inflicted, that it’s all your own fault, but that doesn’t change the fact that you feel sicker than a parrot that’s been lying on the bottom of it’s cage for three days.

So what can you do to try to reverse the effects of the poison that your body is suffering from.

1. Take aspirin or an aspirin derivative like Ibuprofen (If it is safe for you to do so). Avoid paracetamol as your liver is already under performing as it’s trying to process the alcohol you drank, and it needs a bit of a break

2.Get some fluid into you. Part of the reason for the headache you’ve probably got is dehydration. Despite drinking lots last night, the alcohol has a diuretic effect meaning that you’ve probably lost more water than you’ve taken in, so you need to replenish it. Avoid tea and coffee as they have caffeine in them which won’t improve your dehydration. Instead go for water or water mixed with fruit juice. The water will hydrate you and the fruit juice will boost your blood sugar and give you a dose of vitamin C which will help your liver out and potassium which will replace some of the electrolytes you have lost.

3.Eat something. Depending on how you are feeling this could be some dry toast or cereal which will help to boost your blood sugar, or a bacon sandwich which will not only boost your blood sugar but will also help to replace salt and brain neurotransmitters that were depleted by the alcohol. Eggs are a good choice as they contain an amino acid called cysteine which helps counter the effects of acetaldehyde, which is known to create worsened hangovers.If you feel sick it’s worth trying to eat some ginger as this is know to reduce the feelings of nausea and if you really can’t face anything else, try a packet of crisps.

4. Be Happy. A 1997 study in the British Medical Journal (BMJ) suggests that guilt about drinking, a neurotic personality, becoming angry or depressed while drinking, and having suffered “negative life events” in the past 12 months are better predictors of symptoms of hangover than how much or what you drink!

5. Do some gentle exercise. Going for a walk is a great idea. It might not seem it at first, but getting out in the fresh air and getting the blood circulating will help to alleviate your symptoms, just make sure you have had some water and food first.

6.If all else fails, go back to bed. Sleep is one of the most essential treatments for a hangover, as your body in most cases does not get a chance to go into the R.E.M. (rapid eye movement) state of sleep which provides proper restoration for your brain due to the rebound of glutamine in your body. If you have to be up, make sure you get to bed early tonight.

Wishing you a Happy, Healthy and Hangover free weekend 🙂

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