I heard someone talking on the TV this morning. They had been married to a man who was an outspoken atheist and was killed by religious extremists – she herself had been severely attacked at the same time. The interviewer asked her how she coped now. She relayed something her husband said to her – ‘when I’m travelling along in my little sail boat and the waters seem to big or to dark, I look up and I find you, ready to pull me along’. I just stay who I am, solid, and keep going.
As a hypnotherapist I’m very interested in peoples metaphors. It has been said that our metaphors are actually a direct line to our subconscious. The words we choose, the way that we express ourselves, often has little to do with a deliberate thought – we just say what we feel. When that expression comes in the way of a metaphor it can be very revealing.
So I ask the question – How are you going through life?
Are you the centre of your own universe?
Are you travelling through an environment? If so what is that environment like? Is it scary or friendly? Is it free or constrained?
Are you on the ground or on water or in the air?
Are you in charge of your journey?
Have you got things or people with you?
If you are stuck – how can you become free?
If you are let loose – how can you take a step in the right direction?
What is around you?
How does this relate to other things?
Is there anything else that you notice about your metaphor?
What does it mean to you?
It doesn’t just work with your journey through life. You can use this metaphor process for anything. Maybe you want to think about the blog you are writing, the relationship you are in, your work life or business…what ever you want to think about.
It’s worth thinking about this for yourself, but it’s even better to talk about these things with someone else to see what their perspective may be on it…maybe a friend, maybe a therapist….that’s up to you.