One of those days

Do you ever have one of those days where everyone annoys you?

From the person calling in to the TV show, to the person who has parked awkwardly at the supermarket, the person who wanted to stop to chat and the person who didn’t.

Literally everyone is annoying.

I was having one of those days earlier.

Weirdly the thing that snapped me out of it was someone being genuinely obnoxious.

If I had been in my normal happy go lucky kind of mood they may have irritated me, but I was already in a foul mood (for no good reason at all) and they made me laugh.

Now, I knew from the outset the the problem today was me –ย I was the one with the issue – not everybody else, but it never really feels that way. It was only when I was confronted with someone who was at fault that I could let go of the anger I was feeling to everyone else- because they all looked so good in comparison!

That got me thinking.

How often are we happy or unhappy with a situation just because we have compared it to others?

Let me give you an example.

If you walked into work tomorrow and the boss called you into the office and told you he was giving you a 10% pay rise, you would probably be pretty pleased. If you later found out that everyone else had been given 15%, how would you feel? You still have the 10% raise that you were happy with, but now it just seems unfair and a bit rubbish.

On the other hand if you found out everyone else was only gettingย aย 5% raise, your 10% would feel even better…even though it’s still the same 10%.

So, If you want to change the way you are thinking or feeling, try to do some comparisons that will make you feel good. There are always people who have it worse or harder than you do and there will always be people who have it better. If you are constantly comparing yourself to those who have what you perceive to be a better time of it, you will leave yourself feeling fed up and hard done by. Compare yourself to the ones who have it worse off and you will elevate your mood. You might even decide to do something to help them, which will make you feel even better (research shows that people doing a good deed get more from it than the people to whom a good deed is done).

If the World were 100 PEOPLE:

50 would be female
50 would be male

26 would be children
There would be 74 adults,
8 of whom would be 65 and older

There would be:
60 Asians
15 Africans
14 people from the Americas
11 Europeans

33 Christians
22 Muslims
14 Hindus
7 Buddhists
12 people who practice other religions
12 people who would not be aligned with a religion

12 would speak Chinese
5 would speak Spanish
5 would speak English
3 would speak Arabic
3 would speak Hindi
3 would speak Bengali
3 would speak Portuguese
2 would speak Russian
2 would speak Japanese
62 would speak other languages

83 would be able to read and write; 17 would not

7 would have a college degree
22 would own or share a computer

77 people would have a place to shelter them
from the wind and the rain, but 23 would not

1 would be dying of starvation
15 would be undernourished
21 would be overweight

87 would have access to safe drinking water
13 people would have no clean, safe water to drink

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13 responses to “One of those days

  1. It’s all about perspective. On bad days it’s hard to find that perspective – good on you for being able to do that!

  2. Human Interest

    Reblogged this on Human Interest and commented:
    All the time!

  3. Yesterday I was at the store and this lady had a new-born in her left hand and with the right was going to get her food out of the cart. I said, “excuse me, can I help?” I proceeded to unload her cart and she was thankful. The thing is, I have problems lifting my left hand but it seemed compassionate.

  4. MIND = BLOWN

    The most profound truths are also the simplest. Thank you for this much-needed reminder and shift in perspective!

  5. This site is great, natural and sincere. I practiced auto-hypnosis in the past and had very positive results. Thanks a lot.

  6. Comparison is one of the main reasons for feeling insecure in life. No matter how good you think you are, good looking, good athlete, good worker, good driver, good parent, good whatever, there is always, at least ,one person who’s gooder (bad English, but fits real well here) than you are. your excellent post reminded me of, I think, one of Jesus’ parables where He talks about a boss who keeps hiring people throughout the day, and at the end of the day, regardless of what time the workers were hired, he gave them all the same pay. When those who’d been hired at the beginning of the day heard this got upset and complained, the boss basically said, “Hey, this is my money. You were happy until you compared yourself with other workers.” Very good post. Keep writing…

  7. Thank you for reminding me to tweak my thoughts!

  8. Enjoyed your “perspective” regarding “perspective.” Also received benefit from statistical info. You have a well ordered and interesting blog. You must have a variety of talents.

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