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Daily Affirmation Tuesday 30 September

Coventry Hypnosis

Coventry Hypnosis

Coventry Hypnosis

I am a priority

You should be a priority in your own life.

As a Hypnotherapist I see lots of clients who want to give up smoking. One of the main reasons for this is that they have small children and are worried about the effects of their smoke on their children. Whilst this is, of course, a very responsible course of action, it constantly surprises me that they are worried about the children, not about themselves. Their health is not a priority. I ask them how they would feel if their child started smoking, and why they would feel that way. I then ask them why they don’t have the same concerns for themselves.

There was an experiment carried out where a small child (maybe 8 or 9 years old) carrying a cigarette would go up to a stranger who was smoking and ask them for a…

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Time to escape

Prompted by the daily Prompt

Love it or hate it you can’t deny there’s been a lot of talk about Game of Thrones recently. It’s one of the biggest hits on TV and the book sales have gone ballistic. Before this we had Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings and The Hobbit – all epic tales of Fantasy. If your taste doesn’t run to Dragons, Elves, Wizards or Halflings maybe you are more drawn to Indiana Jones, James Bond, Jason Bourne or the like, or maybe you prefer X men, Star Wars or are even a bit of a Trekkie. Then again maybe Mr Darcy is more your bag.

In reality it really doesn’t matter what route you use to escape the hum drum of everyday life – the fact is, most people do.

And we Love it.

Whether you listen to the radio, watch TV, are stuck to your ipad, are glued to a kindle/paperback or can’t be separated from your games console – you have found a way to escape.

Personally I think it’s a marvellous thing to do.

I get to imagine adventures I would never take, loves I will never have, heartbreak I can barely think about, fear, joy, terror and elation in manageable, bite sized pieces. It both prepares us for the real world and gives us an out when we don’t feel like dealing with it any more.

I’m a strong believer in meditation and self hypnosis. This to me is the ultimate way to escape, and I always make time for it, but I try to also make time to visit what ever fantasy creation has intrigued and inspired me at that time. It’s like a ticket into somebody else’s imagination and I am so grateful to the people who are skilled and generous enough to share their vivid pictures with me.

To all those who take the time to write, to create, to share – I thank you.

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Monday Inspired.

Isn’t this what we’re all aiming for?

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How to Nail your next Job Interview

It’s Monday – If you have that sinking feeling on a Monday morning, maybe you’re in the wrong job.

As Ricky Gervais said ‘Remember, Mondays are fine. It’s your life that sucks’

In order to get the job of your dreams, you are going to have to get through the interview.

Here’s how.

Research the job

Before you go anywhere near the interview it’s important that you know what you’re interviewing for. Find out about the job. If it’s a customer facing position, go and be the customer and ask the staff what it is they like and don’t like about the job. Find out what the job entails – for every bit of it you are aware of there are probably bit’s that you had never thought of.

Find out about the company. What makes them special. They are the things you are going to want to demonstrate about yourself at the interview. If the company is green, think green. If it’s community based, think community.

Dress to impress

(because nobody gets a job wearing flip flops)

Know what you are going to wear to the interview. It doesn’t always have to be a suit – that depends on the job – but most potential employers are going to want to know that you have made an effort. That goes for your general appearance as well as your clothes. Make sure your are clean and smart. Clean hair and nails, appropriate make up and jewellery and subtle perfume or aftershave. What ever you decide to wear to the interview it needs to be clean – that includes footwear, so get the polish out.

Turn up 5 minutes before you are expected

At the very least you turn up on time, but it is always better to be a little early. Yes you might have to hang around for a bit if things are overrunning, but that’s just how it goes. Nobody is impressed by lateness. It is always a good idea to know exactly where you are going and do a practice run a day or two before. If a disaster happens and you are going to be late, make sure that you have the contact details of the person you are meeting and call to let them know what has happened. Apologise and ask them if it would be possible to reschedule.

The Interview – present the best you

Be calm and be confident.

Be calm, not laid back. Calmness shows in your voice and your body language. Think about what somebody who is calm looks like. Now imagine them nervous. You need to be copying the calm body language. No fidgeting, no biting of nails, no playing with your clothes or hair. Hands in your lap, shoulders relaxed and looking interested.

Be confident, not cocky or arrogant. The person who is interviewing you wants to find somebody to fill this position. Confidence will prove to them that you are the person for the job. They are also going to have to work with the person they hire, so they are going to want to like them. Arrogance is not likeable.

It is important to be yourself in the interview. There is a thing know as discordance that makes us feel uncomfortable around people who are not being genuine. It’s subtle, but we tend to pick up on it. So be yourself – but be the best version of yourself. It’s worth looking up classic interview questions on line and preparing some answers for the more tricky ones, but again, keep it real. If the question is ‘what are your weaknesses?’ the interviewer doesn’t want to hear ‘I work too hard and need to be perfect at everything!’ something like ‘maths isn’t my strong suit, but I’ve done some work to improve it’ would be better.

If you are prone to nerves or lack of confidence it is worth doing some work on this prior to the interview. There are several self hypnosis techniques you could use like the Betty Erickson technique or The Switch which can be used, but if you are having real trouble I would encourage you to seek professional help – it could be the difference you need to make Mondays a joy for the rest of your life.

Ask Questions

Ask good questions. Don’t ask ‘how soon can I take holiday?’ or ‘Do I get sick pay straight away?’

Ask about career progression. Ask about volunteer work the company is involved with. Ask about charities they support. Ask about things that show you are interested in working for these people for a long time!

It’s as easy as that.

If you can’t decide what your dream job is just ask yourself the following question

‘If money was no object, what would I do for the rest of my life?’

What are you waiting for?

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Beware the Jabberwock

I like to post about a poem on Sundays.

A poem that I’ve grown up with or one that has made me think in the last week or two. This is both.

The Jabberwocky by Lewis Carol is beautiful nonsense.

It has fantastical words and seems to have a meaning that is just out of grasp. You know what it means, but you can’t pin it down.

Those of you that follow this blog will know that I have a fascination with hypnosis. The Jabberwocky utilises one of the ways that we can put people into trance. It’s known as a confusional induction. Basically the conscious mind becomes so confused by what is being said, or what it is being asked to do, that it seems to just drift off and leave the subconscious to work out the meaning. Maybe that’s why so many people have found this poem to be so fascinating over the years.

This poem uses another couple of hypnotic tricks.

Firstly, like all poems it heavily relies on the imagination of the reader to conjure the images it’s creating. Imagination is the engine of hypnosis, and the chances are, if you enjoy poetry, you will make a pretty good hypnotic subject.

Secondly it uses rhythm and emphasis. If you listen to a recording of a hypnotist putting someone into trance they will have a certain quality to their voice that you tend not to find in every day speech. Part of this is tone, part rhythm. You also hear this with certain preachers and public speakers.

So, as Lewis Carol said – Beware the Jabberwock – but also beware those who may be altering your perception of reality…

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It’s not deliberate

Not you – obviously You’re not annoying – it’s everybody else – right?

Do things bug you? Do those who you love most in the world sometimes drive you insane?

The problem is we can take every irritant personally. We treat every action, deliberate or accidental, conscious or subconscious, as a personal slight—a sign the other doesn’t care about us or isn’t prioritizing us the way they should. When we don’t get what we want, we can interpret it as, “You don’t love me enough.” We think, “If you really cared about me, you’d stop driving me crazy with all your irritating habits.”

Unfortunately, much behaviour is mindless; we do many things without thinking. The simple fact is that people engage in automatic behaviours that are habitual or self-focused without taking the other person into account. Yes, it’s a little self centred, but not deliberately so.

If your partner has a habit that he or she is not aware of but that drives you up a wall, like leaving the bathroom door open, leaving bread crumbs in the butter dish, walking around in underwear or cracking their knuckles it is worth bringing it up in a loving way. Maybe it simply never occurred to them that it bothers you.

If you’ve spoken to them about their habit and they continue to do it it could be that your partner just can’t change this aspect of them self and it’s time to take stock. Try reminding yourself what you have—and what you stand to lose. Yes their habit might annoy you, but is it worth losing them over. If the other aspects in the relationship are going well, maybe it’s just about doing some re framing on how you feel about the habit. Take for example the habit of leaving the bathroom door open. Is there any way that you could see this as a positive? I mean, how great is it that they trust you so much that they can be completely open and vulnerable around you?

Sometimes the thing that drives you crazy is totally out of their control. Snoring is a classic example of this.

Yes, it’s annoying.

Yes, it’s disruptive.

No, it cannot be controlled by the snorer.

So what to do?

Well, if you can’t re frame it by saying to yourself that at least you know that they’re breathing and safe in bed next to you, then you could try hypnosis. Hypnosis can be used for all sorts of things including changing how we feel about things. I have hypnotised people to feel more confident, more assertive and less irritated by trivialities. In the case of a wife who was driven to desperation by her husbands snoring I just helped her to feel more and more relaxed with each snore that she heard, so that instead of disturbing her, the snoring sent her into a deep peaceful sleep.

If you don’t fancy Hypnotherapy then maybe it’s time to buy some earplugs or move to a different room 🙂

Have a great weekend with those you love.

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The world’s biggest Coffee Morning

Today is Macmillan’s Coffee morning.

The event started in 1990, when a local fundraising committee decided to hold a coffee morning where people came along to meet and mingle – as they might ordinarily do – but donate the cost of their coffee to Macmillan in the process.

The World’s Biggest Coffee Morning is Macmillan Cancer Support’s biggest charity fundraising event. They ask people across the UK – and sometimes further afield – to hold a coffee morning, where donations on the day are made to Macmillan. In 2013 154,000 people signed up to coffee morning, raising a record £20 million for charity.

There are currently 2 million people living with cancer in the UK. By 2030 there will be 4 million. Macmillan wants to make sure they’re there for all of them.

One in three of us will get cancer and  for most it will be the toughest thing we ever face. When you’re facing the toughest fight of your life, you need a team of inspiring people in your corner with you.

That’s who Macmillan are. They provide medical, emotional, practical and financial support and push for a better cancer care system. They’re the team that gives you the strength and energy to face the fight and get through it.

If you want to donate to Macmillan follow this link to their official site, or just search Macmillan.

Have a great weekend

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Don’t sweat the small stuff

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I read a great post yesterday on Second & NE about taking time out and not getting too caught up in everyday stresses.

It reminded me of the fact that we can all get lost so easily in our ‘normal lives’ that we forget to take even the smallest of times to refocus on ourselves and clear our minds.

Sometimes clients will say to me – I haven’t got time for that.

The standard answer is – If that’s the case you, can’t afford not too.

You see, the more stressed and busy we become, the more important it is that we give ourselves time to recharge.

Not only does this help us mentally and physically, but it also makes us better able to focus and be more productive when we have go back to doing our tasks.

The break you’re giving yourself doesn’t have to be a two week holiday in the Bahamas (though that does sound quite nice), it can just be taking a few minutes to relax or even a few seconds to really breathe and centre yourself. Using a form of meditation, mindfulness or self hypnosis will deepen the benefits of this, so use them whenever you need to.

Working on relaxation is just as important to most people as going to the gym should be – your body and mind work together. If you want to stay healthy it’s important to look after all aspects of yourself.

Wishing you a relaxing stress free Thursday

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Daily Affirmation Thursday 25 September

Coventry Hypnosis

Coventry Hypnosis

Coventry Hypnosis

Today I will see solutions instead of problems

Some days it’s all to easy to see everything as a problem.

Make today different. When you are confronted with something, look for the solution.

Try to see each new challenge as an opportunity to try things a different way –

Maybe you need to get someone else’s input on it?

Maybe you need to find a new approach?

Maybe it’s not something you have to worry about at all?

I was once told that how big a problem is depends on the mood you’re in. Imagine that you have double booked an appointment. If you are in bad mood this could be the straw that breaks the camels back and leaves you in a foul mood all day, because you keep thinking of it and how nothing seems to work out the way you want it to.

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Self Hypnosis – The Switch

Self Hypnosis Technique

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The Switch is one of my favourite Self Hypnosis techniques, but if you are just beginning to use self hypnosis you may want to try something else to begin with, like the Betty Erickson Technique or a progressive relaxation.


To begin with, decide what you want to achieve with this session – summarise your goal into one simple line e.g. I want to be more confident or I want to feel more relaxed. Try to avoid using dead men’s goals.

Now, make yourself nice and comfortable. I usually find that it is best to be sat in a comfy chair with my feet resting flat on the ground, but you can choose whatever feels right for you. Just make sure you are in a safe place and that you have enough time to complete the exercise.

Start by imagining that you have two kinds of wires that go into every nerve and fibre of your body.

One kind controls all of the automatic functions of your body, like your blood pressure & heart rate. Decide what colour this is.

The other connects to every single voluntary part of your body that you can control e.g. breathing, limbs, muscles and your speed of thought.  So, if you were to reduce power in that second bundle, your limbs, breathing and mind would instantly relax. Decide what colour this one is.

Now lift up the index finger of your left hand, and imagine under that index finger is a switch that will turn on or off that entire bundle of voluntary muscles and mental speed.  Right now that light switch is in the ON position.

Close your eyes & take a very deep breath and hold your breath for approx. 5 seconds.  To relax into self-hypnosis, simply imagine the coloured wires of your voluntary system going to that switch and when you breath out turn off that light switch by slowly dropping your finger.

As you do, slow your breathing, relax all your muscles and limbs and allow yourself to relax completely, as if all of the power had simply been turned down.

With the power down, focus on your goal. See yourself successfully doing your new goal. Hear all the sounds that are important to you and really feel what it will feel like. Multiply the positive feelings you will have of you achieving you goal / new habit – make them bigger, brighter and stronger until you feel absolutely brilliant.

To get maximum effect, repeat the above in different scenarios & situations and notice how you are different in the future to how you are now.

You might also notice all the little, achievable things that change to get you to your goal. See how easy they were to do and how amazing you feel when they are done.

When you’re ready to be your usual self, simply tell yourself that’s what you’re going to do. Take a deep breath in and as you do, lift your finger back up. Don’t be surprised if you feel the energy flooding back into your body when you flick the switch back to ON. By the time you breathe out, notice how you feel completely back to normal and positive, but bring with you the sense of achieving your goal and the knowledge of how to do this in the right way for you.


I hope you give this one a try. It can help you to do amazing things!

Let me know how you get on

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