We’ve all heard the phrase ‘Think Positive’ and depending on our mood, frame of mind or situation, this can be easy or nigh on impossible. Or so I thought.
I used to believe that when someone said ‘think positive’ what they meant was be optimistic, look on the bright side, don’t worry. Well, that’s much easier said than done.
But here’s the deal – If you use the right language, it all becomes much simpler.
There are a few rules…..
1. Think about what you want, not what you don’t want.
What I mean by that is, if you want to feel calm and relaxed – think about calming down and relaxing – Do NOT think that you don’t want to panic or that you don’t want to be stressed. You’re brain isn’t very good at understanding the word don’t and just creates the feelings of the word that you don’t want – in this example panic and stress.
2. Try to look at things in a different way.
A friend of mine told me how she dreading doing the housework, but then one day she thought of it as showing her home love and affection and all of a sudden it became something she wanted to do.
Sometimes there is something you keep putting off because you don’t want to do it. Instead of thinking what a chore it will be to do, think how pleased you will be when it is done and you don’t have to think about it any more.
If you’re caught in a traffic jam, instead of thinking about how frustrated you are and that everybody is in your way, just remember that you are part of the traffic jam, therefore you are in someone else’s way. Use it as an excuse to listen to the radio, to relax, to have a few minutes to yourself.
3. Remember to balance your view of the world.
No matter how good or bad your day is going there is always balance. If your having a terrible morning, try to think of any little thing that has gone well. If you really can’t think of anything, then that means all the good stuff is due in the afternoon!
4. Keep some perspective.
Try to imagine a small thing that really irritates you – it could be a loved one leaving a damp towel on the bed, a neighbour parking in front of your house or a workmate not refilling the paper tray in the photocopier. What ever it is, try to imagine that you had just heard you had won the lottery and then the thing had happened – would you care? if not, it’s probably not worth upsetting yourself over, so take a deep breath and let it go.
So next time your in a bad mood or worrying yourself sick about something, and some helpful soul tells you to ‘think positive’, listen, think, breath, smile and hear that they want you to feel better.
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